The secret to a happy long-term relationship may not be what you expect

Amanda's husband Caleb is her best friend. She prefers spending time with him than anyone else. When asked to go out, she finds it hard to say yes because she knows she would have a great time at home with him. Their relationship seems unexciting, but it's a safe space for both of them. They're comfortable and not looking for something new.

Happiness in long-term relationships, according to Yumi Stynes and clinical psychologist Gemma Cribb, mainly comes from a solid friendship. Asking each other ongoing questions, appreciating what your partner brings to your life, and responding to their needs are crucial. Real love is accepting your partner, warts and all, with no change agendas for repetitive issues.

Healthy couples discuss friction points with humor and affection rather than focusing on change. Intentionally creating rituals to connect, such as morning conversations over tea, also helps maintain long-term relationships, even with young children.