‘She is always late’: Singapore man asks how to get deal with girlfriend’s ‘chronic lateness’

A Singaporean man is seeking guidance from fellow netizens on how to address his girlfriend's chronic tardiness. In a post on the r/asksg forum, he explained that she is consistently late for everything, including dates, classes, and important events. According to him, she is often several minutes late, but occasionally arrives more than an hour late, while on other occasions she shows up "just on the dot".

He had previously discussed this issue with her, and she admitted it is a problem, yet she hasn't made any efforts to modify her behavior. He added, "Recently we were late for a booked event simply because she left home later (again). Growing up in a family that emphasized the importance of being punctual, this habit is quite shocking for me."

The man reached out to his fellow Singaporeans for advice on how to get his girlfriend to be more punctual for their dates. Many suggested that there was little he could do at this point and advised him to let her face the consequences of her actions. Some even recommended he arrive late himself so she could understand how it feels.

Others suggested giving her an earlier time to arrive, such as 30 minutes before the scheduled time. Relationship experts advise that if your partner is constantly late, it's crucial to communicate how this behavior affects you. They may not be aware of the impact their tardiness has on you, causing feelings of disrespect, stress, anxiety, or embarrassment.

By explaining your concerns and setting clear expectations, you can help guide them in making a change.