Leena Chandavarkar on Kishore Kumar’s behaviour and marriage insecurities; psychologist weighs in

Legendary singer and actor Kishore Kumar was known for his music and performances, but also for his eccentric behavior. His fourth wife, Leena Chandavarkar, recalled some unusual aspects of his personality in an interaction last year. Leena shared that Kishore didn't like being called "mad" and his behavior fluctuated, ranging from seriousness to childishness.

She recounted a moment during the filming of Pyaar Ajnabi Hai when Kishore asked if she had heard rumors about him, causing her to be deeply unsettled. Fearing that she might say something incriminating, she refused and pretended to hear rumors to avoid confrontation. This led to Kishore making a scary face and then laughing, leaving her scared and agreeing that she had heard rumors.

Despite these moments, Leena noted that Kishore changed significantly after their marriage. However, being his fourth wife often made her feel insecure about the stability of the relationship. She shared that once, feeling threatened, she even considered leaving. Kishore's close friends intervened, stopping her from leaving and telling her to reconsider.

Neha Cadabam, a senior psychologist, explains that living with a partner whose moods or behavior feel unpredictable can be emotionally exhausting. She recommends establishing clear communication, setting boundaries, and recognizing that unusual behavior might stem from stress, personality traits, or underlying emotional challenges.

Cadabam suggests maintaining personal stability through friendships, routines, and support systems outside the relationship. Couples can also benefit from discussing patterns calmly, identifying triggers, and agreeing on healthier ways to respond during tensions. In cases of severe anxiety, professional counseling can provide a structured space to understand behavioral patterns and reduce unpredictability in the relationship.