Cómo usar la inteligencia emocional para ser su propio jefe

In recent times, a significant phenomenon has emerged, wherein over 70% of young individuals are reluctant to assume the role of a leader. This is due to the perceived lack of profitability and the notion that leadership involves directing rather than merely influencing through credibility, moral authority, and daily example. As John C. Maxwell once stated, "Leadership is influence.

And the first person to whom you must influence is yourself." Today, we understand that self-leadership is embodied in six cultural concepts originating from all corners of the globe. The first concept is eudaimonia, which involves living in accordance with one's highest self. This Greek ideal of fullness, happiness, and well-being, as conceived by Aristotle, encompasses acting with virtue, purpose, and personal excellence.

The second concept is whakapapa, a Maori notion of purpose and legacy. It involves understanding one's origins to determine one's destination. This concept connects identity, ancestry, and legacy. The third concept is ikigai, a Japanese term for reason of being. It involves finding the intersection between what one loves (passion), excels at (mission), benefits the world (vocation), and can be paid for (profession).

In essence, this powerful reason for waking up each day stems from self-motivation. The fourth cultural concept, honor, is distinctly Hispanic and pertains to duties of generosity and solidarity. Living with coherence, integrity, and responsibility, being faithful to one's values even when no one is watching. In South Africa, ubuntu signifies "I am because we are," an African philosophy that emphasizes leadership as relationship, community, and contribution.

The fifth concept, which we now transition to, is the tipping point, or the inflection point, in English. This is the moment when a small change yields a significant impact. The idea that self-leadership creates personal and collective inflection points for achieving success through scalability. In summary, becoming self-leaders means being able to integrate purpose, ancestry, and legacy, personal coherence, community from happiness to success.

Thirty years ago, a journalist from The New York Times specializing in popular science, Daniel Goleman, who had completed his doctoral thesis at Harvard on the power of motivation, introduced a concept of immense success: emotional intelligence. Goleman demonstrated that emotional skills better explain personal and professional success than intellectual intelligence, challenging the dominant view centered almost exclusively on cognitive intelligence, the power of thought, and Descartes' "I think, therefore I am."

His book, with the same title, has sold five million copies worldwide. Goleman opens his famous book with a preeminent Aristotelian quote that remains highly relevant: "Anyone can be angry. That is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way—that is not easy.

This is the difference between being swept away by visceral reactions or knowing how to control oneself. There are five domains of emotional intelligence that form a practical system for understanding and managing both our own and others' emotions, viewing an emotion as a short-term neurologic reaction, a stimulus that gives rise to a response: fear, anger, disgust, shame, surprise, or joy.

These five domains include self-awareness, the ability to recognize our emotions as they occur. This involves identifying our emotions, understanding their origin, and knowing how they influence our behavior and decisions. This forms the foundation for everything else: you cannot manage what you do not know.