Yami Gautam says she often felt she ‘didn’t belong’ in Bollywood; psychologist explains why

Yami Gautam, born in Bilaspur and raised in Chandigarh, often experienced insecurity about her appearance as a child. Surrounded by more conventionally attractive Punjabi girls, she frequently felt self-conscious and unknowingly gained weight in an attempt to alter her naturally slim physique. In a 2023 interview with Galatta Plus, Yami was asked if she ever felt like she wasn't welcomed in the Bollywood industry.

She responded, "Yes, absolutely. Many times it felt like that. In very subtle ways, they make you feel that you don't belong. There've been times you felt unwelcome. For that, you don't need anyone to tell you. That one look is enough there. You know it, you can read it. You're not there yet." Yami credited her husband, Aditya Dhar, as her biggest support, emphasizing their shared values and emotional bond.

Organizational psychologist Gurleen Baruah noted that exclusion often arises from similarity bias, where individuals feel more comfortable with those who share their appearance, thoughts, or behaviors. This can create subtle "us vs them" divisions, affecting opportunities and access within industries. Baruah stressed that while exclusion isn't always intentional, it can still shape professional dynamics, leading people to prioritize group belonging over genuine connections.

She advised outsiders to overcome this divide by consistently showing up, demonstrating curiosity, collaborating generously, and maintaining respectful communication. Baruah emphasized that true professional relationships are built on trust, reliability, and authenticity rather than superficial appearances. While nepotism or insider culture may provide initial advantages, long-term success hinges on talent, professionalism, and resilience.

Baruah concluded that outsiders can succeed by honing their craft, remaining consistent, and creating their own support systems through mentors, collaborations, and loyal audiences. Ultimately, she stressed that the key to overcoming this divide is continuous self-improvement, visibility, and letting one's work speak louder than any perceived exclusivity.