I gave my husband full ownership of cooking. It fixed more in our marriage than just dinner.
Most nights I have no idea what's for dinner. That's because my husband always takes care of the cooking.
Rebecca Cretella, the author of the story, significantly reduced her "mental load" after her husband took full ownership of meal planning and cooking. This change made their household run smoother, especially during their life abroad. The author, who never enjoyed cooking, realized that splitting tasks evenly was not the most efficient approach.
Instead, each partner should own tasks they were good at and enjoyed. Inspired by Eve Rodsky's book, "Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution," the couple made a list of responsibilities to visualize the imbalance and then adopted Rodsky's system to divide tasks using "full ownership." Cooking was assigned to her husband, who now handles everything from planning to shopping and cooking.
While the author acknowledges not always loving the meals he prepares, she appreciates the peace this arrangement brings. The couple equally owns other tasks like laundry and family activities. Their 7-year-old son, observing and learning from his father, already knows basic cooking skills.
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