It took me 10 years to talk about losing my baby. Here's why I'm sharing my story now

Ten years ago, I gave birth to my first child, born prematurely at 20 weeks. The pregnancy had been normal until my fifth month, when I started experiencing contractions. Doctors informed us about a rare cervical condition that posed a risk to my baby's survival. Despite medical efforts, I delivered my son early, a heartbreaking experience that left my husband and me holding him.

Recovery was physically and mentally challenging, and it took over a decade to share my story. During the intense period after the miscarriage, I found solace in connecting with others who shared similar experiences, which helped ease my grief. Our families and spirituality were crucial in supporting us through the pain. Many women, however, keep their struggles private due to fear of revisiting the pain, societal views, or potential blame.

Dr. Nono Simelela, a former World Health Organisation official, highlighted the stigma and shame women face when losing a baby, which can lead to isolation. Celebrities speaking openly about their experiences have helped reduce stigma, but more needs to be done to encourage women to share their stories. My second pregnancy was challenging, requiring bed rest, but subsequent births were easier. Time has been a significant healer, and I now look back on that day with less pain.