How Sonakshi Sinha and Zaheer Iqbal deal with insecurity in their relationship: ‘Give me a chance to be possessive’

When Sonakshi Sinha considered a man's role in providing security in a relationship, her spouse Zaheer Iqbal corrected her - asserting that security is a shared responsibility. In the past, Iqbal himself admitted feeling possessive and insecure, yet Sinha never gave him a chance to address these feelings. Zaheer elaborated to Pinkvilla, stating, "When I'm committed, I'm committed," to which Sinha responded, "She goes to work, comes back home, and video calls me during breaks. At least give me a chance to be possessive!"

Rutuja Varade, a psychologist from Mpower Aditya Birla Education Trust, clarified that insecurity isn't always about mistrust. It can stem from past experiences, fear of losing someone, overthinking, or simply a need for reassurance. If left unresolved, such insecurity can evolve into constant questioning, overthinking, misunderstandings, and a persistent demand for reassurance.

This, in turn, can lead the caring partner to feel irritated, emotionally exhausted, and as if they are continuously having to prove their love. Varade emphasizes that past experiences influence our responses, but they don't define the relationship.

To navigate this, Varade advocates for open communication instead of assumptions. Rather than assuming, "They don't care about me," one should express their feelings like, "I've been feeling a little disconnected, and I'd like us to spend some time together." Establishing realistic expectations, such as scheduling calls, sharing routines, and setting boundaries for busy times, can build predictability and reassurance.

Understanding each other's worlds - work, responsibilities, social life, and need for personal space - is also crucial. Varade advises taking responsibility for one's insecurities, recognizing when fear, past hurt, or overthinking shapes interpretations. Building emotional safety involves being consistent, keeping commitments, empathetic listening, and fostering honest conversations without judgment.

Most importantly, Varade reiterates, love is not about the absence of insecurities but about learning to acknowledge, communicate, and address them without allowing them to control the relationship.