A psychologist’s guide to understanding and spotting narcissism
Narcissistic people are often charming at the dinner party and cruel in the car ride home, which tells you they can control it. Clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, author of It’s Not You, has studied narcissism since long before it became a buzzword, and she argues that most of what circulates online gets it wrong. This video A psychologist’s guide to understanding and spotting narcissism is…
Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a clinical psychologist and author of "It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People," has studied narcissism since before it became a popular term. She began her interest in narcissism while teaching at California State University, Los Angeles, and noticed a growing number of clients who described relationship dynamics consistent with her research.
She argues that most online information about narcissism is incorrect and that many self-help books wrongly assume the only solution is for the victim to leave the relationship. Dr. Durvasula emphasizes that healing is possible even when staying in the relationship, and the key to recovery is regaining a sense of agency or choice.
She argues that over half of narcissistic relationships don't involve physical violence, and the focus should be on helping people navigate the confusing situation they're in rather than forcing them to leave.
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