Finding forgiveness while caring for a father with dementia

Leong Jui Chuan, or JC, discovered a stronger connection with her father, Leong Choong Mun, after he was diagnosed with dementia. In a moment of unexpected vulnerability, Choong Mun apologized for any wrongdoings in the past, though JC is unsure if he was referring to a specific incident or simply the effects of dementia. Having grown up resentful over a decision her father made to send her to a private school in Subang for better English education, JC now recognizes the importance of letting go of past grievances.

Despite her father's declining health due to dementia, JC takes care of him by adjusting her routine to accommodate his needs. They spend time together at cafés, the pasar malam, playing board games, going for walks, and singing karaoke. JC also helps structure her father's daily routine, ensuring he gets enough sleep, eats properly, and engages in exercises that strengthen his facial muscles.

Though JC sometimes struggles with patience, she has learned that being gentle and avoiding arguments allows for more peaceful moments. As they continue to create new memories together, JC finds joy in these simple experiences and hopes to make every moment with her father meaningful.