‘She doesn’t want me to solve the problem’: Singapore dad asks how to help burnt-out SAHM wife
SINGAPORE: A father took to social media to share that he is struggling to figure out how to help his burnt-out wife, who regularly vents about the demands of motherhood but rejects his suggestions for making life a little easier. In a post on Reddit’s r/askSingapore forum on Wednesday (Oct 7), the man explained that his wife is a stay-at-home mother (SAHM) to their 8-month-old baby and…
A Singaporean father reached out to the online community seeking advice on how to support his overwhelmed wife, who is a stay-at-home mother (SAHM) to their infant and toddler. Despite both children being well-cared for by their domestic helper, the wife is experiencing burnout due to the demands of motherhood. The father, who works full-time and has limited free time, feels powerless to alleviate his wife's stress.
His wife, however, refuses his suggestions for solutions, such as enrolling the second child in infant care or allowing the helper to take on more responsibilities. She is reluctant to allow the helper to handle too many aspects of the baby's care due to a negative experience with her previous caregiver. The father is left feeling frustrated, as his wife only wants to vent and share her frustrations without seeking actual solutions.
In the Reddit thread, several commenters offered suggestions for how the father could better support his wife, such as providing small gestures of appreciation, taking on weekend childcare duties, and giving her time to relax and recharge.
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