I'm a matchmaker who works with older adults. People in their 70s are looking for someone to share a life with, not build one.

Brigitte Weil is a matchmaker based in Manhattan, focusing on clients aged 50 and above. She observes that superficial factors like looks and finances lose importance as individuals age. Widowed clients are more focused on what they desire, while divorced clients concentrate on what they wish to avoid. This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Brigitte Weil, edited for clarity and length.

The author, a reporter, shares that her parents and grandparents have long-lasting marriages, which inspired her to become a matchmaker for older adults.

Dating in later years differs significantly from dating in younger decades. Older individuals seek companionship to share an already-established life, rather than building one together. Lifestyle compatibility becomes crucial, as older clients prioritize shared activities and values, such as grandchildren and travel. Geographical considerations are also important, as many clients prefer to remain close to their communities and families.

Clients often have clear expectations regarding their ideal partner. Sol, a 96-year-old client, desires a companion to wake up beside him each day, even though he is the oldest person the matchmaker has worked with. Many clients are divorced or widowed, and successfully matched individuals often express gratitude for the support provided. The matchmaker emphasizes that clients are not starting anew but building upon their past experiences.

A notable success story involves a couple both in their late 70s who met through the matchmaker. The man's date was delayed due to a flat tire, but he waited with the woman until AAA arrived, leading to a second date and a blossoming relationship. The couple now travels the world, sharing their experiences with the matchmaker. The reporter, formerly single for ten years, found her fiancé through the matchmaking network and is set to marry him in November.