I've been struggling to find work for over 2 years. It's taken a toll on my finances, confidence, and social life.

Jeremy Spiegel has been searching for full-time employment for over two years. The relentless job hunt has taken a toll on his finances, confidence, and social life. Speaking about his experiences, Jeremy revealed what he has learned from the grueling process over more than two years. This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Jeremy, a job seeker in his 40s living in Massachusetts. The following text has been edited for length and clarity.

During his job search, Jeremy has been repeatedly told that it's not about him but rather the company's decision. This statement has left him questioning whether it might actually be his fault. Losing his regional director of account services position at a publishing company more than two years ago has left him feeling devastated, questioning his competence, and struggling with self-worth.

Despite being confident, decisive, and passionate about his work previously, Jeremy now feels isolated, hesitant, and avoids socializing, an activity he once enjoyed immensely.

Jeremy's job search has put a strain on his family as well. During his unemployment, a family member questioned if he had offended anyone at the companies he applied to. He had to explain that the job search is complex and overwhelming, and there isn't just one reason behind his current situation. Though they are not immediately in danger of losing their financial security, they have had to cut back on certain expenses and put off plans, such as a family trip to Disney World.

Despite his financial challenges, Jeremy remains hopeful and continues to apply for jobs, believing that a traditional job is the most secure way to make a living. He has had several interviews, but no job offers. Frustrated by the long period of unemployment, Jeremy worries about their dwindling savings and how it may affect their marriage.

He reflects on how he has let his family down and wonders if he is back to square one. To cope with the stress, Jeremy takes time off and tries to relax, realizing that overworking himself during the job search is detrimental.