Respect the departed and others at our temples

Recently, a reader submitted an account of a distressing incident they experienced at the Nam Ann Siang Theon Temple during the second death anniversary of their mother on August 11, 2026. Upon arrival, the temple was already occupied by a large family who had claimed the second and third rows of seating for their personal prayers. The writer decided to wait patiently until their family's chanting concluded before commencing their own prayers at the first row.

However, as soon as their master began chanting and their prayers began, the same family remained seated behind them, continuing to talk loudly, laugh, and share updates while consuming food. Their voices were so loud that the temple master had to turn around multiple times, but no one seemed to notice or address the issue. The writer attempted to politely request that the family lower their voices; initially, the noise did subside, but it quickly escalated back to its original volume.

After approaching another gentleman who seemed more composed and possibly in a position of authority, the writer hoped he might be able to mediate the situation. Unfortunately, their efforts proved futile, as the family continued their loud conversations as though the solemn prayers of others held no importance. They only departed after the writer's service had come to a close, leaving the writer feeling deeply disappointed and hurt.

The writer expressed their frustration at the apparent lack of basic consideration and respect for those who had come to honor the departed. They noted that the family appeared well-educated but had seemingly forgotten one of the most fundamental values: respect for the dead and respect for others who were praying. The writer highlighted that this scenario is not uncommon in Singapore, where individuals may yield space to others but receive no reciprocation in return.

The writer emphasized that visiting temples is a time to remember loved ones, seek peace, and offer respect. They implored others to bear in mind the importance of maintaining silence during sacred times, especially during the Seventh Month, a period dedicated to revering the departed. The writer concluded by urging everyone to respect their ancestors, the dead, and those who come to pray, underlining that respect is a simple yet invaluable gesture.