Shahana Goswami recalls breakup with 21-years-older Milind Soman: ‘Had to love myself first’

Shahana Goswami recently discussed her relationship with Milind Soman, a 21-year age gap. The pair were together for approximately one and a half to two years. At that time, Goswami realized that loving oneself was crucial for feeling loved in a relationship. She stated that until she learned to love herself, she would not feel loved by anyone else.

This realization led her to end the relationship in 2013. Psychotherapist Delnna Rrajesh explained that self-love is fundamental to receiving love from others. She noted that if one doesn't believe they are worthy of love, no amount of reassurance from a partner will suffice. Genuine self-love stems from self-respect, which involves respecting one's values and protecting their peace.

Another misconception is that self-love means believing in one's perfection, which is not true. Self-love requires recognizing and accepting one's imperfections without withdrawing compassion. It also involves self-accountability and correcting mistakes without self-hatred.