‘Fun for 32 minutes’: Trisha Krishnan’s post on social burnout is relatable

Tamil actor Trisha Krishnan's candid Instagram post revealing her 32-minute attention span during social gatherings has resonated with many netizens. However, the underlying message is a profound psychological discussion that many silently grapple with - the guilt associated with respecting one's own emotional boundaries. Psychotherapist Delnna Rrajesh explains that people often feel drained at social events not because they dislike others, but because they have learned to suppress their own needs.

This stems from fears of appearing rude, disappointing others, or being perceived as boring or uncaring. Delnna emphasizes that emotional intelligence requires self-awareness, acknowledging that everyone has a unique tolerance for social stimulation. While some find gatherings invigorating, others find them draining after a certain point.

Society often admires those who attend every event, reply instantly, and never seem tired, but constantly ignoring personal needs can have detrimental psychological effects. People-pleasing, a common pattern, is not merely kindness, but fear-driven behavior where individuals prioritize others' approval over their own comfort. If someone genuinely enjoys staying at a party, it's a genuine expression of themselves.

Conversely, staying out of fear of judgment is abandoning oneself. Delnna stresses the importance of setting healthy boundaries as a form of self-respect. Boundaries are guidelines that allow individuals to remain connected without losing their identity. The goal is not to avoid people, but to understand what nourishes and drains you, and to build a healthy relationship with yourself.

Delnna suggests reflecting on whether one is attending events because they genuinely want to or out of fear of disappointing others. Similarly, asking if they're saying yes because it aligns with their values or because they need approval can help separate genuine love from fear. Ultimately, the emotionally healthy people are those who know when to show up and when to pause, understanding that they can care for others without constantly neglecting themselves.