My Healthy Mom Was Told It Might Be Menopause. The Truth Changed It All
Over time, we learned that grief doesn't only happen when someone dies.
From the age of five, the author's mother had been a role model for fitness, strength, and adventure. The family traveled the world together while their mother, Debbie Henchoz, educated them at home. In her early 50s, Debbie began to withdraw from her family, exhibiting mood swings, depression, and isolation. Initially, doctors attributed her behavior to common midlife changes, such as menopause or a midlife crisis.
However, at 57, Debbie experienced language loss and difficulty forming sentences, leading to her diagnosis of early-onset Alzheimer's. This diagnosis came as a shock, as dementia is often associated with old age, not middle-aged adults. Debbie understood her diagnosis and the inevitable decline in her health, which took a toll on her mental well-being.
The author and her brother assumed power of attorney when Debbie was in her 20s, witnessing the gradual loss of her independence. The family has grappled with grief, mourning the loss of the mother they once knew while she was still alive. Today, Debbie lives at home with full-time caregivers, requiring assistance with daily tasks.
The author emphasizes the importance of maintaining a sense of identity and joy for those with Alzheimer's, sharing their experiences on social media to raise awareness of early-onset Alzheimer's. Despite the challenges, the family remains determined to cherish moments of connection and joy, as these memories are precious for both Debbie and her loved ones.
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