My husband was an NFL head coach, but we raised our 3 kids with strict rules about money. Christmas meant just 4 gifts.

Kiya Tomlin, the wife of former Pittsburgh Steelers head coach Mike Tomlin, reflects on their family life during his NFL career. Despite being highly visible due to her husband's demanding schedule, Kiya often felt invisible and unseen. After meeting in college, Kiya considered a medical career but ultimately pursued her passion for fashion.

She started making clothes at age 10 and later established her own clothing line in Pittsburgh, employing six women as mothers themselves. With Mike's career as a football coach, their family life revolved around his demanding schedule. During the season, Mike often worked long hours, and Kiya managed the household and her children's needs.

Once Mike became a head coach, he was home more on Fridays, allowing Kiya to focus on her family. She maintained her independence financially, emotionally, and spiritually, even adjusting to their kids' needs rather than spoiling them. Today, at 52, Kiya is untethered from many obligations and excited to explore her capabilities in middle age, guided by her experiences and strengths.