Prince Adu-Owusu: Your person will find you

Remember this important truth if you've experienced heartbreak that made you doubt love: your person will come into your life. It may seem like a comforting phrase, but it holds great meaning when you're struggling to move on from someone you truly loved. Friends, family, and well-meaning individuals may tell you that another person exists for you, but the pain can still linger when you're alone.

You may still miss that person, yearn for things to have worked out differently, and hope for a chance at another chance at love. The hardest part of heartbreak involves seeing the person you once envisioned sharing your future with living happily without you. Despite your best efforts to appear fine, something inside you changes – you feel uneasy.

You start questioning if they found what they once had with you in someone else, and if those cherished memories mean anything to them anymore. Telling no one about your inner turmoil may be tempting, but some answers could make the situation more challenging. So, put on a brave face and continue your day. The pain can become too much to bear, making it difficult to concentrate on anything else.

You might replay conversations, revisit memories, and wonder what you could have done differently. However, this does not mean your life has ended or your dreams must be put on hold. Your worth is not determined by someone else's decision not to continue with you. A relationship's end does not mean your life has ended, your goals are unattainable, or your happiness depends solely on their return.

Life is not a competition, and you are not behind because a relationship ended. You are not less deserving of love simply because one chapter of your life didn't turn out as hoped. As you grieve the loss, remember that a whole new life awaits you beyond that relationship. Rekindle the things you wanted to achieve, visit the places you desire, experience new things, and become the person you were becoming before the relationship took center stage.

There will be someone who makes you laugh in unexpected ways, enjoys your company, listens to your concerns, celebrates your achievements, and appreciates the little details of your life. This person will make you feel wanted without questioning your position in their world. They will not just talk about a future with you but will actively build one, and the word "intentionality" matters.

Love is not just about sweet messages, romantic gestures, gifts, or promises. It's the consistency behind them. It's someone who genuinely cares about your well-being, makes time for you even when busy, and avoids leaving you guessing about your place in their life. Love requires effort, consideration, honesty, and responsibility.

The comfort comes from knowing you're not the only one trying to make the relationship work. You and your partner are not always the ones initiating conversations, planning moments together, apologizing, or finding ways to keep the connection alive. Mutual effort, affection, and the desire to build something meaningful should be present.

A relationship should not be a guessing game where one person constantly interprets the other's intentions. Your person will not be perfect, and relationships come with challenges. However, they should be someone who communicates, takes responsibility, makes adjustments, and works through difficulties with you. They understand that maintaining a person in your life requires more than making promises when everything is going well.

Remember, you deserve a relationship where you don't have to beg for the very things that make love meaningful. Letting go can be challenging, but know that a relationship has ended, and you can still have feelings for the person. You can wish them well while still feeling uncomfortable seeing them with someone else. You can be making progress in your healing journey.