I went on an aerial obstacle course twice with my adult daughter with autism. Here’s what I learnt

My adult daughter Kate and I embarked on an aerial obstacle course adventure with my hopes soaring high after reading about the new Outward Bound Singapore campus in September. However, doubts crept in as I felt nervousness, timidity, tension, and a hint of self-pity. I was more concerned for Kate, who is 22 and somewhat resistant to unfamiliar experiences, than myself. Would she struggle with the harness or have a meltdown? Would she freeze mid-course, unable to move forward or backward?

To our pleasant surprise, Kate acquitted herself well on the first attempt. She confidently stepped over gaps and across swinging elements, though she didn't enjoy it as much as she should have. I, on the other hand, found the experience far more challenging. The bulky harness around my waist and thighs, the awkward carabiner, and the pulley system made me feel like a novice fumbling to keep Kate happy. I often had to step in before any frustration could escalate, helping her navigate the safety devices and trolley.

The second time we tried the course, I was much more confident, and the challenges felt less daunting. I managed the carabiner better and even did so with one hand, while Kate seemed calmer and more cheerful. Yet, the height still bothered me, and I occasionally longed to retreat from the rope net section. By the end of our second outing, I realized that Kate might be stronger and more capable than I initially thought.

It made me realize that stepping out of my comfort zone, even if it's for my loved one, can be exhilarating and potentially life-affirming. We will undoubtedly attempt the junior course for ages 10 and up, and I am grateful for this eye-opening experience.