Five failed IVF nearly broke us — Couple

Toyosi and Ifeanyi Ukejeh endured seven years of infertility, suffering five failed IVF attempts before welcoming their daughter. Married in 2019, they had hoped to start a family before their 30th birthdays. In 2022, Toyosi discovered she had a blocked fallopian tube and Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, reducing their chances of conceiving naturally.

After medical investigations, they were advised to try intrauterine insemination or IVF. The couple initially attempted two IUIs, both of which failed, leading them to undergo IVF. The first and second IVF attempts were unsuccessful, causing emotional distress for Toyosi. She stopped menstruating and experienced severe pain, believing she had made mistakes in seeking medical attention.

The third IVF attempt further shattered their hopes, leaving Toyosi depressed and questioning her decision to continue trying. Her husband, Ifeanyi, supported her, but their differing perspectives on surrogacy and even racism from their previous doctor strained their marriage. The couple eventually changed doctors and underwent the surgery to remove fibroids, which they believed may have contributed to the failed embryo transfers.

After recovery, they attempted IVF once more and were ecstatic when Toyosi became pregnant. Despite the emotional exhaustion and loneliness, Toyosi found strength in her faith, participating in a prayer challenge which helped her overcome the despair.