In Kerala, these young people are ditching the big, fat Indian wedding

In Kerala, a growing number of young couples are opting for simple, secular court marriages under the Special Marriage Act, eschewing extravagant traditional weddings. Noel George, a lawyer, and Amala, a schoolteacher, married on August 31, 2024, under this act, spending less than Rs 2 lakh on their intimate reception. This trend is gaining traction, with the number of Special Marriage Act marriages in Kerala rising from 12,040 in 2019 to 15,073 in 2025, and 12,723 in 2026 alone.

These couples cite various reasons for their choice. Some reject patriarchal rituals and patriarchal norms, while others prioritize a secular ceremony over religious ones. Interfaith relationships and a desire to keep costs low also play a role. For instance, PA Bonifus, 33, and Reema K, 29, a Christian and a Muslim respectively, kept their reception under Rs 3 lakh, citing family pressure to have a ceremony.

Social media is helping spread awareness about these alternative wedding choices. Noel George documents such marriages on Instagram, while Manu from Thrissur documents and promotes marriages under the Special Marriage Act on his social media page, Mathamillatha Jeevithangal. Manu's partner, Shivi, met him through this very platform.

Some couples prioritize financial prudence, using the saved funds for their honeymoon instead. For others, the decision is a statement against patriarchy, allowing them to break free from traditional rituals. And for victims of domestic violence and abuse, the Special Marriage Act offers a fresh start on equal footing after traumatic experiences.

Despite the simplicity, these couples are making a clear statement – their love and commitment matter more than elaborate ceremonies or expensive receptions.