Vijay Deverakonda on Rashmika Mandanna’s willpower: ‘Almost inhuman’

Vijay Deverakonda recently discussed his admiration for his wife, Rashmika Mandanna, and her remarkable willpower. He described her willpower as unreal and almost inhuman, praising her simplicity and simplicity. Deverakonda also shared that he sometimes warns her about the world not being all heart and love, as people might try to take advantage of her. He expressed that he wants her to remain herself while also knowing when to draw lines or be firm on certain matters.

Psychotherapist and relationship breakthrough coach, Delnna Rrajesh, shed light on the underlying fear that women often face when asserting their boundaries. She explained that women are not inherently afraid of saying no, but rather, they are apprehensive about how others might perceive them for doing so. Society tends to encourage women to be accommodating, understanding, forgiving, and considerate, qualities that are indeed valuable.

However, when the approval of others becomes dependent on displaying such qualities consistently, kindness can transform into self-abandonment. Over time, a woman may find herself tolerating disrespect, accepting unreasonable demands, or suppressing her discomfort, all out of fear of disappointing others rather than disappointing herself.

Delnna also highlighted that this mindset can lead to a pattern of people-pleasing, where maintaining harmony takes precedence over personal needs. While kindness is a commendable value, it is essential to distinguish it from people-pleasing. People-pleasing can turn gentle people into individuals who are afraid of becoming mean, as they may imagine only two possibilities: remaining agreeable or becoming aggressive.

However, assertiveness offers a third option, allowing individuals to disagree without disrespecting, refuse without humiliating, and protect themselves without attacking anyone.

Delnna emphasized that setting boundaries may initially cause guilt, especially when someone has spent years prioritizing others. However, guilt is not always a clear indicator that one has done something wrong. Instead, it might simply signify discomfort in behaving differently from what one has been conditioned to believe is acceptable.

A loving partner can encourage this growth, but they must also respect the individual's pace and autonomy. The goal is not to make a gentle person harder, but to help create a space where gentleness and self-respect coexist. Ultimately, the healthiest relationships allow individuals to develop the strength to protect their nature while continuing to love others.