'I don't know what my partner earns': How soon into dating should you reveal your salary?

Money remains a sensitive topic in modern dating, with many people unsure of when to reveal their salary to a romantic partner. A group of New York City singles shared their perspectives on the ideal timing for this conversation. While some argue that salary should not be discussed until couples become official, others believe it's important to address financial compatibility early on.

Willa Morton, a 25-year-old tech sales worker, suggests that couples can gauge a person's earnings based on their spending habits rather than needing an exact figure. She and her boyfriend have discussed her lower income without asking for his salary. Others, like Alexa Ludato, prefer waiting until the relationship becomes more serious before sharing financial details.

Vik Sunderaj, a 22-year-old friend of Alexa's, agrees that bringing up salaries on the first few dates is too early. Bridget Shurdut, a 26-year-old sales worker, finds it odd if someone asks about salary within the first few dates and would consider it a red flag. Relationship coach Kate Mansfield advises that money conversations should start early, focusing on spending, saving, generosity, lifestyle, and financial independence.

Emily Moretta, a 26-year-old insurance worker in a two-year relationship, still hasn't shared her salary with her boyfriend, assuming he has a rough idea, but they haven't felt the need to discuss it yet.