Sanjay Dutt, 67, speaks about bond with daughter Trishala: ‘We had a disconnect’

Actor Sanjay Dutt, 67, opened up about his relationship with his 38-year-old daughter Trishala, who resides in New York. The seasoned Indian film star revealed that he and Trishala had experienced a disconnect in their bond at some point. Dutt stated that this disconnect was due to a multitude of reasons, including his inability to have custody of his daughter. However, he expressed immense pride in the significant transformation he has observed in Trishala.

According to psychotherapist and relationship breakthrough coach Delnna Rrajesh, the term 'disconnect' reflects a situation faced by many families. Factors such as divorce, separation, custody arrangements, legal complexities, migration, and circumstances beyond a child's control can physically separate a parent and child for years. In such instances, the relationship between the two adults ends, causing a shift in the child's family without their choice.

Delnna emphasized the need for greater psychological sensitivity when discussing separation, as custody determines where a child primarily lives and who bears legal responsibilities, but it does not measure the depth of a parent's love or the child's attachment. She highlighted that parents and children share a deep love while simultaneously grieving an unfulfilled relationship due to separation.

Ambiguous loss, a psychological concept, refers to a situation where one person is still alive and emotionally significant but unavailable in the way they once were or needed to be. In the context of parent-child separation, the circumstances surrounding the loss are varied, and this concept helps explain the difficulty in articulating the grief experienced by the individuals involved.

Reconciliation can be challenging when parents attempt to rectify the lost years. Instead, the focus should be on building the relationship that is currently possible. Love can exist in the present, even if the years lost cannot be retrieved or recreated. Delnna firmly stated that a relationship with a painful history does not have to be sentenced to a painful future. By refusing to let the years already lost take away the years that still remain, a relationship can continue to thrive.