Shah Rukh Khan on the ‘green flag’ for a happy marriage: ‘Make adjustments so both of you…’

Shah Rukh Khan, the 60-year-old Bollywood star, offered a touching piece of advice to a newlywed couple during an Ask-Me-Anything session on the social media platform X. The actor advised the couple to "embrace each other's colours or qualities" and make adjustments so that both partners can be happier in the relationship.

Delnna Rrajesh, a psychotherapist and relationship breakthrough coach, explained that there is a valuable relationship lesson in Shah Rukh's words. She emphasized that a lasting partnership cannot exist when both individuals insist on maintaining their previous ways of living. She stated that adjustment is healthy when both people make space for each other, but unhealthy when one person continually diminishes themselves to make the other happy.

Delnna explained that even small acts, such as remembering to give your partner space after a tough day or learning to communicate instead of withdrawing during disagreements, matter greatly. She warned against confusing adjustment with self-abandonment. While healthy compromise may not always be perfectly equal, there must be a sense of reciprocity in the relationship, where both partners feel that their happiness matters to the other.

Delnna also pointed out that love in a relationship inevitably influences one another. People pick up expressions, rituals, tastes, habits, and sometimes even new ways of seeing life. However, intimacy does not require the disappearance of these unique qualities. Instead, a healthy relationship allows both individuals to remain visible while creating something new together.

When considering making a significant adjustment in a relationship, Delnna suggested asking oneself a few important questions. These include whether the decision is made freely or out of fear, whether the partner also accommodates one's needs, and if the adjustment requires changing a habit or abandoning an essential value or boundary. Delnna also urged individuals to ensure that they still recognize themselves within the relationship after repeatedly compromising.