I got my degree at 36 while raising two young kids, but I’m still looking for a job – was it worth it?
Believing a degree would give her better career prospects, Jillian Lim juggled work, night classes and two young children, grappling with mum guilt and marital strain. While she’s still looking for a job, she says the experience gave her something she didn’t expect.
Jillian Lim, a mother of two, decided at 36 to pursue a degree while juggling work and childcare responsibilities. She had previously worked in broadcasting since the age of 19 and had already built a successful career. Her parents had pushed for her to attend university, as her mother had done so in her 40s and had successfully completed her studies.
Jillian's father, however, was more laid-back and believed a degree was unnecessary. When he urged her to enroll, Jillian felt pressured and even resented him for it. She chose a business marketing degree to complement her broadcasting experience. Despite the challenges of attending night classes and being a young mother, Jillian persevered through the demanding course.
As she transitioned to working full-time while studying, she faced increased stress and personal conflicts. She resented her husband for having more free time and being healthier than she was, leading her to use school as an excuse for her irritability. Eventually, the course's difficulty and mounting stress became too much for Jillian, and she decided to quit.
She attributed her decision to her exhaustion and frequent arguments with her husband. However, she remained on good terms with her classmates, who provided support and encouragement during her academic journey.
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