Shehnaaz Gill says she has ‘betrayed’ in love when her emotional needs weren’t met

In a recent interview with SMTV, actor Shehnaaz Gill opened up about her past experience in a romantic relationship, confessing, "I have betrayed someone in love." She revealed that the incident wasn't an impulsive act of cheating, but rather a result of feeling emotionally unfulfilled. "I only did it because the vibe wasn’t matching.

When you expect something from someone, and they don’t meet those expectations… I have those expectations," she explained. "I can’t just keep on giving. I believe in give and take. So when such things happen, I call it off because you can’t invest so much in someone else."

Gill further articulated her preferences in a partner, emphasizing the importance of understanding, open-mindedness, independence, and shared experiences. She stressed the need for mutual love and reciprocity, stating, "A woman wants to be loved in exchange for love. If someone can’t love you, then what’s the point?"

The actress also shared her views on shared finances in relationships, advocating for equal contributions regardless of gender. "All the relationships that I have been in, I have always believed in sharing. Like if we are on a vacation, we split the bills in half," she said. However, she noted that some men find this difficult to accept, questioning why a woman should pay for herself when she can spend her own money. Gill believes this might stem from insecurity on the man's part.

To better understand these dynamics, Sonal Khangarot, a licensed rehabilitation counsellor and psychotherapist, offered insight. She explained that emotional neglect or disappointment can stem from natural mismatches in communication styles, love languages, or attachment needs, which are often manageable through adjustments. However, persistent feelings of neglect may indicate deeper, unmet emotional needs that could benefit from exploration through therapy.

Khangarot advised that emotional reciprocity, a key component of healthy relationships, requires awareness, boundaries, and mutual empathy. It involves giving and receiving emotional support without losing one's sense of self or relying entirely on a partner for emotional regulation. Maintaining balance in a relationship means clearly expressing needs, listening without defensiveness, and practicing self-soothing instead of constantly seeking reassurance from a partner.

When it comes to changing financial dynamics in modern relationships, Khangarot pointed out that the increasing value placed on women's independence can challenge traditional gender roles. While some men may feel threatened or inadequate, women may struggle with guilt or the pressure to take on all responsibilities. Overcoming these challenges requires open communication about money, respect for each other's contributions, and viewing the partnership as a collaborative effort rather than a competitive one.

When approached as a shared goal, financial matters can foster equality, reduce conflict, and build a relationship rooted in trust and mutual respect.