Man finds it hard to trust GF after her ‘microcheating’: ‘Is it healthier to just break up?’

A Singaporean man is pondering whether his relationship has hit a breaking point following his girlfriend's past "microcheating," which has left him struggling to trust her. Seeking opinions on social media, the man recounted how his girlfriend had engaged in several behaviors that raised questions about her fidelity during their university days.

These included talking to men she was attracted to for hours on end, speaking with male colleagues on the phone, and flirting with another man who showed interest in her. While these occurrences happened in the past, they have continued to impact his level of trust in her. Recently, a new incident has reignited the issue. His girlfriend claimed she had a three-hour lecture and sent him a Telegram notification, indicating she was in class.

When he asked for confirmation after three hours, she refused to send another update, citing her professor in the room. This prompted an argument, and she expressed her desire to end the relationship due to her feeling that she shouldn't have to update him frequently. The man is now seeking advice from fellow Singaporeans: "Am I being insecure or paranoid, or is my reaction understandable given our history?

Should I try to salvage the relationship and rebuild trust, or is it healthier to break up?" Some social media users dismissed the "microcheating" as mere "cheating," urging him to recognize the seriousness of the behavior. Others encouraged him to end the relationship, noting that her request for frequent updates was unreasonable.

However, a few suggested he try to communicate with his girlfriend first and listen to her perspective.