Friendflation: Warum Geld in Beziehungen relevanter wird

In recent years, money has become an increasingly important factor in friendships, according to Wolfgang Krüger, a psychotherapist and author who has written books about money and relationships. Krüger explains that this is due to a growing gap between the rich and the poor, as well as the current uncertain times in which we live. In uncertain times, money plays a larger role in our lives, and we define ourselves more by it.

Krüger shares an example of a student named Maresa who was frequently picked up by a man in a Porsche for dates. While they initially enjoyed each other's company, as their financial situations diverged, their relationship weakened. Maresa found herself spending more time with friends who had a more frugal approach to money, while the man she dated often attended expensive restaurants and traveled with friends. Eventually, Maresa ended the relationship due to the financial differences between them.

Krüger emphasizes that in most cases, people seek out friends with similar financial backgrounds. However, when finances are a significant part of our value system, such as if we define ourselves by expensive possessions, money can become a problem in friendships. The issue arises when friends discuss their financial differences, as money is still a taboo topic in society. Openly discussing financial disparities can lead to one friend distancing themselves from the other with more wealth.

Krüger advises that to maintain strong friendships, it's essential to address financial differences openly and honestly. This way, friends can learn to coexist with different financial circumstances and avoid letting money become a source of tension in their relationships.