Mia Arderne's foul-mouthed guide to being a better person

Mia Arderne's book "How to Stop Being a N**i" is a foul-mouthed guide to self-improvement that may initially put readers off with its explicit language. However, the author's use of Cape slang and a glossary quickly helps readers get accustomed to the style. The story follows Lucian, a 45-year-old DJ who is going through a difficult time in his personal and professional life.

After realizing he embodies the characteristics of a "n**i" - inconsiderate, jealous, and neglectful - Lucian decides to change and follows nine steps to become a better person.

Arderne injects humor into the self-help genre by including questionnaires, exercises, and even a typology of "n**iers." The reader is taken through a series of questions, some of which are light-hearted and Cape-specific, while others delve into more uncomfortable topics related to relationships and behavior. The book's inclusion of a playlist of songs to accompany each chapter adds an unexpected touch, softening the impact of the swearing and providing a soundtrack to Lucian's journey.

The central message of the book is the idea that "n**iery" is a measure of morality and a reflection of one's behavior. While the profanity might not appeal to everyone, and at times the self-help elements may feel forced, Arderne succeeds in making readers reflect on their own actions and encouraging them to participate in the process of becoming better individuals.

With its engaging approach, "How to Stop Being a N**i" has sparked interest among colleagues in the newsroom, who are eager to read the book and explore their own potential "n**i" tendencies.