‘Take time in quiet’: Melinda French Gates says to spend at least 10 minutes a day on self-care

Melinda French Gates, a philanthropist and former wife of tech mogul Bill Gates, emphasized the significance of self-care in her recent book The Next Day: Transitions, Change, and Moving Forward. Published in 2025, the book delves into her life lessons after turning 60, including her divorce from Bill Gates and advice on navigating difficult transitions.

French Gates highlighted the importance of dedicating at least 10 minutes a day to self-care, whether through meditation, jogging, or other forms of wellness. She admitted that she initially resisted practicing self-care as a mother, but eventually discovered that it improved her overall well-being and made her a better parent. French Gates and Bill Gates divorced in 2021 after 27 years of marriage.

In her book, she described the separation as one of the most challenging life transitions she has faced. She stressed that during such major changes, it is crucial to take time for self-care and reflection. French Gates shared that embracing discomfort can lead to personal growth, and people should not shy away from it. Research from the National Institute of Mental Health supports her views, indicating that mental health and wellbeing are crucial for overall quality of life, including physical health.

Employers increasingly prioritize work-life balance during job applications, with some companies even implementing measures like closed Sunday stores to ensure employees enjoy adequate time with their families. French Gates urged people to let go of perfectionism, particularly during transitions, as it can hinder success.