Soft blocking: Why people are quietly distancing themselves on social media instead of blocking

Soft blocking is a growing trend on social media, where individuals choose to distance themselves from others without using the formal block function. This approach can involve muting stories, preventing certain users from viewing one's posts, unfollowing or unfollowing them, or gradually reducing communication. While it may seem less confrontational than outright blocking, the emotional impact on the recipient can be significant.

Dr Sakshi Mandhyan, a psychologist, explains that soft blocking can leave the recipient filled with uncertainty, replaying conversations and attaching meaning to small online changes. This ambiguity can be more painful than a clear rejection, as it leaves the mind to wonder what went wrong. Soft blocking can be a healthy way to create distance for various reasons, such as needing privacy after a breakup or establishing boundaries.

However, it can also be used with less healthy intentions, like avoiding difficult conversations or intentionally provoking a reaction. The key to determining if soft blocking is a healthy boundary lies in the intention behind it. If the goal is to create distance without expecting a reaction, it is generally a reasonable choice.

On the other hand, if the intention is to manipulate or provoke, it may cross into unhealthy territory. Dr Mandhyan advises that when there is an ongoing or close relationship, briefly explaining the need for distance can prevent confusion and communicate the boundary respectfully. However, one does not need to explain themselves if contact has become unsafe or emotionally overwhelming.

The important aspect is ensuring the boundary is clear, rather than leaving the other person to interpret online behavior.