I can't find a job at 57. I'm fighting feelings of humiliation and panic.

Gregory Brooks, a 57-year-old resident of Rochester, New York, is grappling with both the challenges and the emotions that come with embarking on a job search later in life. He was recently forced out of his technology services role at a community college, and the prospect of finding new employment after 57 feels daunting. Brooks describes the experience as a mix of humiliation and frustration, acknowledging that it is harder to start over at his age compared to when he was younger.

Brooks believes that his age may be both an advantage and a disadvantage in his job search. He notes that younger professionals are often more willing to work long hours, sacrifice work-life balance, and hustle to climb the corporate ladder. However, he himself does not aim to build his career in the same manner, simply wanting to perform well in his current job.

He has witnessed similar feelings of inadequacy from older students he worked with at the community college, struggling to keep up with their younger peers academically.

While Brooks has endured unemployment before, he recognizes the difficulties of facing it again at this stage of his life. He is actively applying for jobs, using mass applications due to panic, and trying to refine his search. His PMP certification has been a valuable asset and he is focusing on IT and project management roles. Brooks has been leveraging LinkedIn, Indeed, reaching out to friends, and contacting local IT recruiters to find potential opportunities.

The job search process has taken a toll on Brooks' self-esteem and has contributed to situational depression. He admits that it has been a significant blow to his identity, as his job played a crucial role in his daily life. The uncertainty of finding a new role that aligns with his skills and values adds to his stress. Despite these challenges, Brooks continues to engage in hobbies and maintain a positive mindset through reading and positive self-talk.

He finds solace in legal and financial thrillers, and cherishes moments spent with his new Labrador puppy.

To cope with the stress, Brooks is seeing a counselor, reaping the same benefits he did the previous time he faced unemployment. He shares the same techniques that helped him before, such as mindfulness and accepting emotions without judgment. He acknowledges that acknowledging his feelings is crucial, and seeks support from his supportive wife. For older job seekers, Brooks recommends acknowledging their feelings and leaning on their support network for both job hunting and mental well-being.