La brecha orgásmica

The intense heat forces people to flee the lush surroundings to maintain a conversation. Even those who enjoy the eccentricity of surrounding themselves with plants and tending to them with their hands may find it difficult to endure in the greenhouse. The specialty coffee bar or the kebab with chairs at La Sirenita do not foster the art of storytelling.

Simple chats - about love, politics, work, or sex - require a very particular atmosphere, a sense of being at home. When this elusive feeling is reached, words flow uncontrollably. One discusses, circles around, looks straight and sideways, narrating anecdotes and concepts. Peeling away the daily routine into an intimate bubble, just the two of you.

Until the next day, when opening a mobile phone and entering social media reveals the truth: we are never truly alone. The algorithm does not need to listen to capture our interests and eventually drain them. "In heterosexual relationships, women experience 30% fewer orgasms than men," reads the first suggested tweet on X. The coincidence is unsettling: female sexual pleasure is a topic that is only discussed in confidence.

To understand the reason for the taboo, it suffices to stop on the comments of the 3Cat news about the idea of "the orgasm gap", analyzed by psychologists and sex therapists Laurie Mintz and Montse Iserte. "Experts? Surely they are lesbians, left-wing woke types with hair on their chests, short hair," one comment reads. "You must be your women, the orgasm gap is what you practice on TV3," another says.

"The new migrants will solve it," someone else suggests. "And the raped girls in Ceuta will you say anything? Or are you just posting rubbish that nobody cares about?" The comments range from disbelief to accusations of idiocy, all with a reach of over 55,000 people. The analysis of the "orgasm gap" in relation to gender inequality in sexual pleasure is interesting, but also reveals the dark depths of social media.

Even in the darkest corners of X, where the richest man in the world controls the narrative, there is a hint of hope. "Organism gap? I guarantee at least one orgasm in every sexual relationship. My own!" one user named Juan con Miedo jokes. "Some don't understand sex beyond intercourse, a practice that is not physiologically stimulating for many women.

Communication is lacking," another person notes. "In a man and woman relationship, both must work to enjoy," a third proposes. Despite the temptation to seem like a provocateur, it is worth admitting that mobile phones, X, or even Instagram can be a source of good things. Instant messaging platforms like WhatsApp, which are harmful in creating quincalla love, can also maintain the bubble of intimacy with people living far away.

A friend sends a summer photo posted on X: a woman by the sea. Following her, the dialogue continues: "What does she think when she sees her boyfriend on the other side?" I ask. "The same thought everyone else has: what have I done with my life?" I reply. "What else is there?"