Bobby Deol credits wife Tanya for making life easier: ‘Consider myself to be her third kid’

Bollywood actor Bobby Deol recently revealed that his wife, Tanya, has made his life easier - to the point that he considers himself to be her third child. Deol told Times Now, "She handles everything, from finances to managing my work. Usne mujhe bigaad diya hai" - or "She has spoiled me."

Psychologist Rutuja Walawalkar at Mpower, Aditya Birla Education Trust, notes that Bobby Deol's public appreciation of his wife's efforts is not surprising but essential. "Appreciation is the single most underrated yet important component of a healthy relationship," Walawalkar said. "People generally go into relationships with the expectation of love, but the thing that remains constant and necessary even in the latter stages of any relationship is the feeling of being recognised."

Walawalkar explains that unspoken appreciation can become invisible labour, leading to feelings of neglect. Publicly expressing appreciation, however, adds emotional meaning to the relationship. She emphasizes that acknowledging everyday efforts, such as managing finances or household responsibilities, is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship.

Recognising the importance of gratitude, Walawalkar highlights the positive cycle effect in relationships. When one partner is recognised, it motivates them to continue showing emotional investment, creating a loop of mutual respect and appreciation. Simple actions like saying "thank you," complimenting your partner, or publicly acknowledging their efforts can significantly impact the psychology of a relationship.

Walawalkar concludes that healthy relationships are built on everyday recognition and appreciation, not just romantic gestures. A simple "thank you" or compliment can have a profound effect on the emotional bond between partners.