{
  "id": 20188628,
  "title": "‘Is this how a marriage dies without much fanfare?’: Singapore man says he misses wife's affection and worries they are becoming just roommates",
  "url": "https://urgent.news/2026/11/15/is-this-how-a-marriage-dies-without-much-fanfare-singapore-man-says",
  "topic": "world",
  "section": "World",
  "published": "2026-11-15T13:30:42.000Z",
  "source": {
    "name": "The Independent Singapore",
    "slug": "the-independent-singapore",
    "url": "https://theindependent.sg/is-this-how-a-marriage-dies-without-much-fanfare-singapore-man-says-he-misses-wife-s-affection-and-worries-they-are-becoming-just-roommates"
  },
  "original_language": "en",
  "account": "A Singaporean man has reached out to the internet for guidance, expressing concern that the affection in his marriage has gradually diminished, causing him to question whether he and his wife are transitioning from romantic partners to mere roommates. On the r/asksg forum, he lamented that he finds himself \"keeping score\" with his wife, observing her text frequency, response style, and whether she still expresses love or misses him. He admitted that perhaps he is incorrect in believing the couple should maintain the spark by constantly texting, dating, showing concern, demonstrating affection, and being more physically intimate. Despite expressing gratitude for his wife, he feels she offers little in return—no words of affection, physical touch, smiles, or excitement without initiating contact first.\n\nReflecting on their past, he expressed a longing for the earlier version of his wife, when affection and sweet gestures were more prevalent. He recalled how carefree they once were, filled with sweet words and gestures. He speculated that a lack of love and affection from his side, combined with life's challenges, had somewhat eroded the happiness they once shared. While not attributing blame, he worried that their relationship might have become more of a platonic partnership than a loving marriage. Acknowledging his fatigue, he refrained from further complaints or actions at this stage.\n\nSeeking advice from fellow Singaporeans, he questioned whether this was common for marriages to lose their way—without infidelity, explosive arguments, or a singular devastating incident, but through the gradual disappearance of affection. He inquired if this represented how some marriages quietly decline after overcoming life's hurdles together. \"Is this how a marriage dies without much fanfare for some couple after going through thick and thin together and yet surviving it?\" he wondered. \"It cannot be a situation where the love survives hardship, but it lacks that emotional intimacy and intensity.\"\n\nIn response to his query, a fellow Redditor noted that it was common for relationships to become stale, yet emphasized the importance of addressing the issue. They recommended sitting down together and openly discussing concerns rather than allowing frustrations to accumulate. The suggestion was to have an open conversation, reminding each other of the good old days, setting date nights, and sharing time together. They also advised to be gentle when discussing feelings, such as expressing longing for the past and expressing desire to bring back the spark. Lastly, they suggested writing a love letter to understand what she might appreciate, potentially reigniting her interest.",
  "summary": "SINGAPORE: A Singaporean man has turned to the internet for advice after feeling that the affection in his marriage has slowly faded, leaving him wondering whether he and his wife are becoming more like roommates than romantic partners. In a post on the r/asksg forum, the man said things had reached a point where he found himself “keeping score with his wife”— paying attention to how often she…",
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  "disclaimer": "Summaries, key points and the editor’s take are written by software from other outlets’ reporting and may contain errors — always check the linked original."
}