{
  "id": 18051526,
  "title": "Beyond happiness: What our children really need",
  "url": "https://urgent.news/2026/11/04/beyond-happiness-what-our-children-really-need",
  "topic": "ai",
  "section": "AI",
  "published": "2026-11-04T01:02:00.000Z",
  "source": {
    "name": "Gulf News",
    "slug": "gulf-news",
    "url": "https://gulfnews.com/opinion/op-eds/beyond-happiness-what-our-children-really-need-1.500734098"
  },
  "original_language": "en",
  "account": "In recent decades, the list of parental concerns for their children has shifted from reminders about academics, books, and meals to simply wishing them to have a good time. This change reflects a shift in how we perceive what constitutes a good childhood. While we still wish our children to enjoy school, make friends, and seize opportunities, we might be overlooking what happiness means from their own perspective. Happiness, for a child, goes beyond academic success, material possessions, or favorable family photographs. It encompasses feelings of love, security, and acceptance; the ability to express oneself freely; and the assurance of a supportive presence during challenging times. Happiness also means being free to be oneself without constantly worrying about meeting others' expectations. It's important to understand that happiness does not mean being cheerful all the time. Disappointment, anxiety, and sadness are part of growing up, and children need the space to experience these emotions without feeling compelled to hide them.\n\nParents understandably want the best for their children, often providing opportunities that they themselves did not have. However, it's crucial to remember that academic achievement and personal well-being do not always coincide. Some high-achieving students may excel academically and participate in numerous extracurricular activities, yet still harbor internal anxieties that are not readily apparent. This disparity suggests that a child's academic performance does not necessarily reflect their overall well-being. A report card can document academic progress, but it cannot provide insight into a child's emotional state or the challenges they may be facing.\n\nThe concept of the \"good enough\" dilemma underscores the need for a balanced approach. Schools have acknowledged their broader role in supporting pupils' development, providing counselling, special education, and other resources to help students navigate difficulties that may affect their learning and future. However, schools cannot accomplish this alone. The most effective support arises when parents and educators collaborate, openly sharing concerns and working together.\n\nIn the home setting, initiating thorough conversations with children about their day, academic progress, and social interactions can be challenging, as their responses may be brief or abruptly end the discussion. Parents should strive to create an environment where children feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and experiences without feeling interrogated. Open and engaging dialogue is essential for understanding and supporting our children's well-being.\n\nAs society becomes increasingly digital, childhood is now characterized by constant stimulation and information overload. This environment poses unique challenges for parents in regulating and understanding their children's experiences. While traditional methods of guidance may not always apply, dismissing unfamiliar experiences as irrelevant could be equally detrimental. It's crucial for parents to listen to their children's perspectives, even when they differ from their own. Demonstrating a willingness to learn from our children's viewpoints strengthens the parent-child relationship and models lifelong learning.\n\nFamily dynamics are also evolving, particularly in the UAE, where many families are geographically dispersed. The absence of frequent contact with grandparents and other relatives can deprive children of the invaluable benefits of shared family stories, memories, and perspectives. These elder family members bring a unique historical and cultural context that can be both instructive and comforting for children. Allowing them to maintain these relationships, despite the distance, contributes to a child's sense of belonging and continuity within the family.",
  "summary": "Two or three decades ago, as children hurried out of the house for school, parents would call after them with a familiar list of reminders: “Study hard, complete your work, don’t lose your books and, above all, eat your tiffin!” Today, the parting words are more likely to be: “Have a good time!” The difference is telling. The reminders may have changed, but one thing has not: parents still want…",
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  "disclaimer": "Summaries, key points and the editor’s take are written by software from other outlets’ reporting and may contain errors — always check the linked original."
}