{
  "id": 11980083,
  "title": "37 y/o woman rejects Singaporean man after 5 dates, says she wanted ‘care, thoughtfulness, spontaneity’",
  "url": "https://urgent.news/2026/10/04/37-y-o-woman-rejects-singaporean-man-after-5-dates-says-she-wanted",
  "topic": "culture",
  "section": "Culture",
  "published": "2026-10-04T18:03:09.000Z",
  "source": {
    "name": "The Independent Singapore",
    "slug": "the-independent-singapore",
    "url": "https://theindependent.sg/37-y-o-woman-rejects-singaporean-man-after-5-dates-says-she-wanted-care-thoughtfulness-spontaneity"
  },
  "original_language": "en",
  "account": "A 37-year-old woman from China, currently living in Singapore, ended a five-date relationship with a 39-year-old Singaporean man after realizing she was not receiving the care, thoughtfulness, and spontaneity she desired in a romantic partnership. Despite the man's efforts in arranging dates and showing enthusiasm, she felt he never went beyond friendship and did not provide the emotional connection she sought. She experienced disappointment, such as when he got lost on their final date and left without offering to drive her home, or when he only suggested basic self-care measures when she was unwell. The woman concluded that she did not feel any romance or emotional connection in the relationship, and she explicitly expressed her feelings to him. The online community offered various perspectives, with some suggesting she might have been incompatibility in expressing care or different cultural expectations, while others believed there was simply no romantic chemistry between them.",
  "summary": "SINGAPORE: A woman has taken to the internet to share that she chose to walk away from a man she'd been seeing for five dates, after coming to the realisation that she hadn't been cared for in the way she wanted to be. The woman, 37, said she is originally from China and currently lives in Singapore, while the man, 39, is a Singaporean Chinese. Sharing her story on the r/asksg forum, she wrote…",
  "key_points": [
    "37-year-old Chinese woman rejects Singaporean man after 5 dates",
    "Woman desired 'care, thoughtfulness, spontaneity' in relationship",
    "Disappointment over lack of emotional connection and romance"
  ],
  "editors_take": null,
  "illustration": null,
  "coverage": {
    "outlets": 1,
    "also_reported_by": []
  },
  "ai_generated": true,
  "disclaimer": "Summaries, key points and the editor’s take are written by software from other outlets’ reporting and may contain errors — always check the linked original."
}